Read it all here: Dealing with Hardship
My job involves being around people who are struggling. Many people are dealing with personal illness, while others with loss. Whatever the case, it is a very common occurrence to sit alongside of someone who is in significant hardship.
Here is my advice to them, and to you if you are dealing with difficulty:
- You can cry in front of me. If there is anyone you can cry in front of, it is your doctor...
- Most of the people around you don’t know what to do... Be patient with them. The people closest to you are often the most awkward.
- It’s OK to lie. When people see you socially and say, “How are you doing?” they don’t really want to know; they are just being polite...
- People will say really stupid things to you... Just tell yourself that they are idiots, and ignore what they say.
- Depression is irrational... The nature of depression is to be out of control of your emotions, so don’t feel like you are crazy when this happens.
- Being happy does not mean you are not sad... Good things don’t negate the bad. There cannot be silver linings without dark clouds.
- Try not to isolate yourself...
- There are two kinds of depression...
- It is normal for depressed people to wish they are dead...
- Time helps. Life is full of hard things to lots of people...
- Don’t protect your loved ones...
- If you need me, please bug me.
Thanks for these, Dr. Rob! Be sure to read the whole post at http://distractible.org/2008/10/30/dealing-with-hardship/
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